I Owe My Family To The Brave Women Who
Chose Adoption Over Abortion
Federalist,
by
Rose Carlson
Original Article
Posted By: Beardo,
11/30/2023 12:46:54 PM
As I reflect upon our two adoptions this National Adoption Month, I am left teary-eyed remembering the beauty of the journeys for me and my husband, as well as the strength and generosity of their biological mothers — women who went above themselves in choosing life and hope for their children.
Twenty-four years ago, doctors diagnosed me with endometriosis and told me I would likely never be able to have children. My husband and I were devastated. As I coped with my grief, I had no idea that a 19-year-old girl named Elizabeth was grieving nearby for the opposite reason:
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Reply 1 - Posted by:
Birddog 11/30/2023 1:02:30 PM (No. 1607834)
"I went through a lot to find and meet my birth mother, mostly to see if she was Ok, to see if she needed anything...and to Thank Her...because I didn't end up as just another abortion. She was 23yo and went through a lot to have me, to allow me to live"-Steve Jobs
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Reply 2 - Posted by:
udanja99 11/30/2023 1:08:32 PM (No. 1607837)
This story could almost be mine. We adopted our daughter when she was 22 hours old, her birth mother having just turned 17. We found her birth mother with the help of relatives and her high school guidance counselor. During the process it was as if God was putting all of the puzzle pieces together for us just as we needed each one.
33 years later our daughter and her husband have given us 3 wonderful grandchildren who are being raised
in a conservative Christian loving home.
Thanks for posting this!
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Reply 3 - Posted by:
padiva 11/30/2023 1:28:26 PM (No. 1607846)
Thanks for posting.
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Reply 4 - Posted by:
Illinois Mom 11/30/2023 1:42:53 PM (No. 1607857)
Today, I have a husband, sister-in-law, niece, nephew, seven first cousin's, one best friend, and several very good friends all because a woman chose LIFE over a perfectly legal way to solve her "problem." Every one of them have beautiful successful families, They include several doctors and specialized nurses. My niece, a NICU nurse, was on duty when one of my granddaughters suffered a stroke at birth. What a comfort that was.
A woman who places a child for adoption isn't throwing her child away, she isn't abandoning her child. The child isn't unloved. Any child born after Jan. 22,1973 and placed into the arms of adoptive parents is very much, a loved child.
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Reply 5 - Posted by:
Miss T 11/30/2023 4:55:16 PM (No. 1607954)
Historically, the adoption industry in the USA has focused primarily on the needs of the adults: Adoption is a practical "cure" for infertility, and a "solution" to an ill-timed pregnancy. The primary focus should be the needs of the children. As it is, the children are merely products.
Being young, poor, and unmarried are usually temporary situations. If the birth parents could receive more practical support, many of them would choose to keep their children. Since Maria's natural grandmother helped Rose and Tom by caring for Maria, isn't it reasonable to believe that Grandma would have assisted her own daughter as well?
There is not one word in this article about the natural father's situation. Scratch below the surface of many voided adoptions, for instance "Baby Richard" of about thirty years ago, and one finds a callous, cruel disregard for the father's interest in his own child.
It appears that Maria's mother tried to circumvent the legal requirement to get the father's informed consent for the adoption: "She also insisted on putting my husband’s and my names on Maria’s birth certificate." So, to evade the father, she perjured herself on a legal record. Rose regards the lies as an acceptable means to an end.
Rose displays an odious entitlement and self-regard.
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Reply 6 - Posted by:
Beardo 11/30/2023 6:44:25 PM (No. 1607992)
This is a respectful and loving response to post #5 above. In your reply, if you substitute the word abortion for adoption, you get to the real point, which is:
"Historically, the ABORTION industry in the USA has focused primarily on the needs of the adults: ABORTION is a practical "cure" for INCONVENIENCE, and a "solution" to an ill-timed pregnancy. The primary focus should be the needs of the children. As it is, the children are merely products."
Remember that GOOD is not the enemy of perfect. See also Isaiah 5:20.
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Reply 7 - Posted by:
Aubreyesque 12/1/2023 1:21:30 AM (No. 1608118)
"Brave"?
Really? So...there was something to be SCARED of? Scared of another woman's child? REALLY?!
Adoption is LOSS. Before Rose got her family, THAT CHILD HAD TO LOSE THEIRS.
Yet, the adopter is "brave."
Sorry, but until ALL FIFTY STATES allow an adoptee to obtain the Original Birth Certificate that is CHANGED by the State (government) this "bravery" is nothing but a front for child trafficking. There is absolutely NO REASON to keep the adoptee from their full identity in this country.
What's brave is the adoptee being a real person in spite of everyone else's efforts to "other" them.
No admiration from me.
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