There’s A Reason Moving In Before Marriage
Makes Divorce More Likely, But Barstool
Can’t Figure It Out
The Federalist,
by
Elle Purnell
Original Article
Posted By: earlybird,
1/9/2023 12:31:28 PM
First comes love, then comes an indeterminate period of conveniently living together to decide whether your partner’s dishwasher-loading habits are a dealbreaker, then comes marriage.
Today a lot of young daters assume moving in together is a prerequisite for matrimonial success. But it actually hikes up a couple’s proclivity toward divorce compared to spouses who wed without first cohabitating — a statistic that shocked hosts Jordyn Woodruff and Alex Bennett of Barstool Sports’ “Mean Girl” podcast(snip)“Couples who live together before marrying have nearly an 80 percent higher divorce rate than those who do not,” Bennett noted incredulously.
Reply 1 - Posted by:
DougTN 1/9/2023 12:51:10 PM (No. 1374344)
It’s called one foot out the door. Why buy the milk when you can get it for free? Etc
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Reply 2 - Posted by:
TexaTucky 1/9/2023 1:46:13 PM (No. 1374401)
Like the difference between a contract and a covenant, shacking up is an exchange of good and services whereas marriage is an exchange of persons.
I give my self to you . . . in exchange for YOUR self. Not just your engorged body parts.
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Reply 3 - Posted by:
Venturer 1/9/2023 1:47:23 PM (No. 1374402)
Divorce has nothing to do with previous sexual experiences or living together before marriage.
\It has to do with commitment. Todays youth has no idea about commitment.
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Reply 4 - Posted by:
Proud Texan 1/9/2023 1:56:49 PM (No. 1374414)
Number 3 has it. It is about commitment. Moving in together before marriage means that at least one person is not committed. In my case, it was her. For certain reasons we couldn't get married right away, but I considered myself married for life, whatever may come. She was never completely committed for any of the several years (15) we were married.
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Reply 5 - Posted by:
LadyHen 1/9/2023 2:05:21 PM (No. 1374428)
Women are the sexual gatekeepers of society (while men are the marriage gatekeepers) and sadly most young US women are immature and very promiscuous now.
Facts: most young dating US women of child bearing age find 80% of men in their own age range not just unattractive but "ugly" and will not consider them for a relationship. That means 100% of these woman are chasing 20% of eligible men. Let that sink in. The mental illness gymnastics on the part of these women this puts into play are astounding. The lies they tell themselves would make you want to slap them.
So hook up culture leads to high body count women (the number of men she has slept with, aka pump and dumps, which most men don't want to put a ring on), then to shacking up with the man you "settled" on, doing this over and over again as your biological clock ticks by and you eggs die. This cycle repeats until you get terminal baby rabies and marry the last one you settled on should you be lucky enough to have not "hit the wall" by that point and can get him to put a ring on it. How can this cycle NOT lead to failure? 2 kids and 7-10 years later, you frivorce him, turn your kids' lives upside down.. all because you as a woman are not "happy" and we all know pop culture says happiness is your right.
So you think creating a relationship culture that views others, both men and women, as simply disposable will not fail?
The best thing parents with daughters can do is tell them the TRUTH.. not this female empowerment crap. You have a marriage marketplace expiration date and you only have so many fertile years. The Sex in the City style of whoring yourself out to non-committing men and a corporate worthless job during your peak child bearing years is a good path to lifelong loneliness and mental illness.
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Reply 6 - Posted by:
montwoodcliff 1/9/2023 2:52:55 PM (No. 1374458)
I always liked what Joan Rivers said to women about marriage, "Before you pick up his poo-poo undies, get the ring!"
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Reply 7 - Posted by:
columba 1/9/2023 2:54:54 PM (No. 1374460)
Marriage was made a gift by none other than Jesus Christ. He then and now too gives the green light only when the traffic is approrpriate.
Marriage is marriage.
Shacking up continues to be shacking up.
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Reply 8 - Posted by:
lynngirl122 1/9/2023 4:11:23 PM (No. 1374505)
Women are so stupid. Make the guy WORK for it and do NOT move in together without being married. Secretly the guy WANTS you to adhere to strict rules and high standards. Of course they WANT you to move in YEAH NO KIDDING. When they guy FINALLY gets pressured enough to hand over the diamond, here comes the blushing bride in her WHITE dress what a joke.
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Reply 9 - Posted by:
3XALADY 1/9/2023 4:37:16 PM (No. 1374514)
#8 I like the white dress and the kid(s) as attendants, dropping the rose petals and carrying the ring pillow. Commitment is the word. DH and I moved in together a few months before the wedding but we lasted 43 wonderful years until his death. For years I have commented about THE WEDDING, then no one knows what to do after THE WEDDING is over and it's time for cooking, cleaning, etc. etc. Such a rude awakening. hehe
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Reply 10 - Posted by:
Bluefindad 1/9/2023 8:25:58 PM (No. 1374670)
I've always heard this and it's probably true. But I feel compelled to point out a verified exception. Wife and I lived together and then married 46 years ago. Not bragging, but wonder if anyone else has a similar story?
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Reply 11 - Posted by:
Faithfully 1/9/2023 11:25:38 PM (No. 1374759)
A young woman has something special to offer. If she lives with her b/f for say seven years without a commitment he will leave her in when he matures and outgrows her. She will know she has been used. She will never get those years back. Seen it too often. Make a commitment with someone who wants a family.
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Reply 12 - Posted by:
Talk2 1/10/2023 10:50:38 AM (No. 1375077)
The guy gets the woman to move in and he is happy as a pig in you know what. She has found her Prince Charming and all is right with the world until---- he begins to wonder if she is as free and easy as she was with him or when will she decide to look for greener grass, or is she using him until she can do better. It's not all one way, but without that commitment to stay together through thick and thin that door begins to look better and better. As one young woman I know said about a relative--they needed to live together to find out if they were sexually compatible. I call a big BS on that. Number 1 hit the nail on the head - why buy the cow when the milk is free?
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